ASSALAMUALAIKUM
W.B.T
Alhamdulillah. Selesai jugak program Karnival Siswi Bestari 2013,
anjuran Biro Siswi Kolej Pendeta Za’ba, Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia, Bangi.
Dah nama pon program siswi kan, maka banyak la aktiviti yang disediakan khusus
untuk wanita. Kecantikan (AVON, MARY KAY), Kesihatan like YAKULT dan
keselamatan. Perkara yang aku nak cerita adalah pasal keselamatan. Ahli siswi
telah menjemput persatuan Aikido Malaysia untuk memberi sedikit teknik untuk
mempertahankan diri.
Perkara yang aku nak tulis ni aku dapat dari pihak Aikido, point memang
aku copy paste je tapi aku dah susun supaya lebuh kemas. Valuable information
especially for ladies. Hope it’s may help us to defend ourselve.
“THROUGH RAPIST’S EYES”
It seems that a lot of attackers use some tactic to get away with
violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with
such a situation. Everyone should read this especially each and every girl in
this world.
FYI-Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in
prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here
are some interesting facts:
1. The first thing men look for in a
potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a
ponytail, bun. Braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are
also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.
2. The second thing man look for is clothing.
They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them
carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3. They also look for women using their cell
phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities.
Those that are least paying attention to the surrounding while walking would
become the most likely victim because they are off guard and can be easily
overpowered.
1. The number one place women are abducted
from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
2. Office parking lots / garages.
3. Public restrooms.
4. Removing them victim from the Primary
Location.
The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and
quickly move her to a second location where they don’t worry about getting
caught. So what should you do before it’s happen are:
1. If you feel like you can put up a fight or
resistance, JUST DO IT. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two of them to realize that going
after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
2. Those carrying “weapons” would be the
least likely to be a victim. These men said they would not pick on women who
have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in
their hands.
3. A key in your hand is better than none.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker
to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not
worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1. If someone is following behind you on a
street or in a garage, go with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in
the face and ask them a question or make general small talk. Now that you’ve
seen their faces and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a
target.
2. If someone is coming toward you, hold out
your hands in front of you and yell ‘STOP’ or ‘STAY BACK!’. Most of the rapists
this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that
she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target.
3. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor
was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling ‘I
HAVE PEPPER SPRAY’ and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4. If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them
with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around
the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the
elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this
guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date
rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle
strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard
as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5. After the initial hit, always go for the groin.
I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s part
it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that
they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing
trouble, and he’s out of there.
6. When the guy puts his hands up to you,
grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much
pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without
using mush pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
audibly.
7. Of course the things we always hear still
apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can
and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You
may feel little silly at the time, but you’d fell much worse if the guy really
was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL…
I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be
some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that”. After reading, forward it
to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we
live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do:
The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough
to use, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New
Orleans:
3. If you are ever get thrown into the trunk
of a car:
Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start
waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has
saved lives.
4. Stay Alert & Move into your car or
vehicle immediately.
Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in
parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone
may be hiding at the passenger side, peek into your car, inside the passenger
side floor, and in the back seat. (DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB).
b. If
you’re parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most
serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the
women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s
side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the
seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and
get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN
SORRY. (and better paranoid than dead)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the
stairs.
Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.
7. If the assailant as armed with weapon:
If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you. (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be
sympathetic: STOP IT!
It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer was a
good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for
help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next
victim.
I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a
life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle.
THANK YOU ^_^
